I'll be there for you..

As I write this post, the lyrics of the song cross my mind:

"So no one told you life was gonna be this way, 
Your job's a joke, you're broke, your love life's DOA 
It's like you're always stuck in second gear
When it hasn't been your day, your week, your month, or even your year
but.. 
I'll be there for you"

"I'll be there for you" How often have you heard these words.. or rather "I'll ALWAYS be there for you".. Yes, these words have been said to us millions of times.. well at least a hundred, if not millions.  "I care for you", "I love you", "even if I am not with you, I'll always be with there for you".. variants are many more.. And yes they do sound bollywood-ish. However, we all have either said or heard something like that in our life...  So?, you ask. 

Let me begin from the beginning. I am down with fever.. and not a normal one. From recent couple of days I have been struggling with Dengue Fever and everything else that comes with Dengue... But I don't intend to bore you to death with all the details so let me just say, Life's been better!! 
          
 We all fall ill and we all seek comfort when we are down and week. As you all know I live alone. By alone I mean, in a rented apartment with flatmates who are as busy as I am and we don't have much time other than saying hello to each other when we sometimes meet in the common area of the apartment. So, I was saying that I live alone. And my parents live in a different city... so does my sibling. Being ill is one thing but being ill and alone, completely different picture. You have to fight the sickness and take care of yourself all by your own drowsy mind and weak body. At that time you remember those words "I'll be there for you".. that so many people have said to you. And your question is.. where is that "there" referred to in the phrase? Where is that person who said such a thing or should I say promised to stay by you in hard times? Do you call those people and ask for help as they promised.. or... do you just fight YOUR battle by your own hands? Tough call...

And as I am ill and off from work, I have time at my hand.. to categorize people into three types:

1. Those who don't care. These people know you are sick and will care enough Atmost to just like a post you shared about your health. But will go bananas if you share a pic of yourself in skimpy clothing.

2. Those who say they care but actually don't even bother to call to check on how you are doing. In short those who don't care at all are better than these as you know that you can't expect anything from them.

3. Those who pick up there phone and ask how you are doing? Or the ones you can call and ask for help without hesitating. 

And as I was categorizing people into these types I met the fourth category that I didn't even know existed on earth:

The Framily : These people are not your friends, not at all. These are beyond friends and enter the zone of Family. Hence I decided to call them Framily (Friends+family). This specie can be found anywhere in the world however only lucky people are able to find them (or be found by them i should say). They'll act like your virtual family when your actual family is not "there". They don't wait for you to ask for help. If they see you in trouble, they'll drop everything and come running to be with you. These people have however one drawback. They are not necessarily seen during good times. That's because you'll be too busy (most probably listening to another "I'll be there for you") with the above three categories during your good times, to even see the framily. Just like our own family who we tend to forget during normal life. I am so glad I had the piffany to see that I have such people in my life...and that I am so blessed. Yes I consider myself lucky. And all I want to say is find your framily and be a framily for someone.  

 Although it might seem so complicated, but life is always giving us more and more reasons to be alive. These little surprises are the meaning of living. Yes I am ill, dying inside with weakness, but along with this memory of illness, I'll always remember the care and love of my family and the one person who actually didn't wait for me to ask for help and who's always been there for me through think and thin. And I'll also not forget those who pretended to care..atleast they cared for pretending much than nothing :) :)

Caring for someone other than ourselves is what makes us human..care for someone.. even though you might not get it back.. still keep loving cos you are spreading the seed for love with every kind act..cos you are human..be someone's Framily.. cos that's how life is supposed to be..cos this is called Life..