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“Ok, so this looks good”, I think looking at myself in the
new dress, “just needs a little tucking in here and there.” “This behavior is new…” the train of thoughts
begins suddenly, as usual, “me… trying to fit my clothes to my body”.
Most of the times it is me trying to fit into the clothes I got, thinking
constantly about how much I need lose and from where in my body. I bet most of
the people now days do the same, trying to fit into clothes that are made on
standard scale. Not only clothes and shoes, the type of products we use each day
are standardized and we are given a silent message to fit ourselves into them.
If you can’t find a foundation that matches your skin tone YOU are at fault. If
you can’t fit into a jeans size your friend is easily able to fit into, it is
YOUR fault and you need to be embarrassed.
I
know you all must be thinking that I don’t understand that a company cannot
make clothes for every size out there. They need to make what the majority can
wear and need not think about everyone. True, I am not blaming them. I just
have this one small question for you all. Why are we embarrassed if we can’t
fit into the ones made for majority? It’s not like everyone is the same. It’s
not like we are all clones walking around. And that is not even my point J. I am here again
talking about the twists and turns of life. Trying to understand life just a
little better and this time the behavior of trying to FIT IN has held my focus.
We
all know that human beings are social animals. We just cannot live alone. I
have seen people who call themselves loners but then loners also get depressed if
they don’t have even a single friend. We all need friends and family around us but
why do we need approval of our friends or family. Why do we need them to think
we are like them? Why do we need them to think we are not an outcast? Why do we
try so hard to fit in? So you think you are not the one trying to fit in? Think
about it… Have you ever kept something (it could be as small as a needle and as
big as a bomb) a secret from your friends just because you don’t want them to
judge you? It may be justified to you but you still think they wouldn’t give
you their approval that’s why you didn’t tell them. Or have you ever tried to
lose those last 5 pounds? Do five pounds really matter? Really? But everyone
around you thinks you are fat.. or worse YOU think you are fat because of all
the models and celebrities you see. Isn’t this trying to be like someone else?
Is this appreciating what you have and who you are?
Is accepting yourself as you are? Why are you trying so hard to fit in
when you were born to stand out? It’s a human dilemma, we all want to be different, extraordinary and we all also just
want to fit in with everyone around us.
We all were made different, even if our
physiques match. Even clones tend to have different personalities. But then we
are all trying to be the same. We are all trying to follow the same trends and
trying to be generic. We're so quick to cut away pieces of ourselves to suit a
particular relationship, a job, a circle of friends, incessantly editing who we
are until we fit in. Instead of making changes in the society we are changing
ourselves to fit into the society. Just like instead of getting a dress tailored
for us we are trying to get ourselves tailored for the dress. Society has
always mocked people who stood out and did not fit in, be it bullying in high
school, friends commenting on your weird dressing or thinking, or people around
you getting annoyed by your way of questioning everything. We live inside a box and think that
people who don't fit into our box are weird. Instead of trying to Fit it, let us just be
ourselves and Fit out, even when people insist that we have to change. Let’s take
up space, not apologize for ourselves, and not agree with those who seek to label
us with stereotypes. Legends are not those who always tried to fit in. If I
were to write a book about someone I would not see what he did that was exactly
like the people around him but I would write about how he was different, how he
stood out in the crowd. But then let’s not forget morality. Doing something
just to please someone and get his/her approval, is bad but doing something
that’ll end up hurting someone is worse. Be different, but don’t just be
selfish and irresponsible. There’s a thin line between breaking rules and
breaking hearts. Don’t be afraid to break rules to follow your heart but never…and
I repeat it… NEVER break hearts and hurt people around you.
Every human being is different and special in his own ways
and no one needs to judge him for what he is. Everyone should be able to live
exactly how he was made and not by losing his true self in trying to fit into
millions of things around him. Life is
not about fitting in, it is about standing out!! Let’s not forget, in the end we're
all misfits here… because this is called living… because this is called
life!!
